5 types of people to 'unfriend' on social media

(CNN)It's about time you did it.
Yes,
unfollow that annoying fourth cousin twice removed. Unfriend that girl
you ran into the hallway one time in the seventh grade.
It's "National Facebook Unfriend Day," and it might be a good time to tidy up social media.
In 2010, Jimmy Kimmel
declared November 17 the holiday in an attempt to inspire people to
remove those "friends" on social media that they barely know, and in
some cases, never even met. And there are some people all of us might
consider bidding electronic farewells to.
The unrecognizable names
When their name pops up on your newsfeed and you wonder, wait, who?
You probably haven't talked to this person since elementary school. Or
they live in Kansas, but you met through a mutual friend. You haven't
seen them in years ... if you ever met them to begin with.
Social
psychologist Erin Vogel says it's common, in an age of
hyperconnectivity, to virtually connect with people we don't know all
that well. Sometimes, she says, those connections can be really
positive. Other times, they're unnecessary and "don't serve us very
well."
Don't recognize a name in your list of Facebook friends? Maybe you should cut the (virtual) cord.
Your ex-whoever
That
pesky ex-boyfriend, ex-girlfriend, ex-bestie, or ex-lab partner.
Whoever the ex is, today's the day to bid adieu. Clinical psychologist
Suzana Flores knows the impact of lingering relationships on social
media, telling Bustle in 2015:
"Seventy
percent of people stalk their exes on social media," says Flores,
author of "Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships,
and Our Lives."
It's not always
necessary to unfriend and unfollow your exes, but if your social media
use starts "interfering with your sleep, mental health, or daily
responsibilities," Vogel says, it could be a good solution.
Anyone who brings you down
This
can be anyone from an old high school friend or cranky distant relative
to a beauty influencer or celebrity that simply doesn't make you feel
good about yourself. If they don't lift you up, cut them out.
Vogel
says social media platforms, like Facebook and Twitter, can be
detrimental to users' mental health when people compare themselves to
the people they follow.
"Influencers
are paid to make their lives look picture-perfect. Following them can
make us feel like our own lives don't measure up," says Vogel, a fellow
at the Stanford Prevention Research Center. "Social media use can be
toxic when we use it to compare ourselves to idealized versions of
others' lives."
Several studies have found benefits of creating positive social media environments. A 2016 study published
in the Journal of Medical Internet Research found anxiety and
depression more prevalent in social media users who had negative
interactions on social media, and less common in users who had "positive
interactions, social support, and social connectedness" on social
media.
The obnoxious political ranter
Facebook
is the home of political rants. But at times, it can be more than an
average voicing of opinions. If you feel bombarded on social media with
angry page-long posts about politics, don't feel guilty about
"unfriending" them today.
If it's simply not realistic to unfriend your local political ranter, Vogel suggests another option.
"Try
using the 'mute' feature on apps like Facebook or Instagram," she said.
"Sometimes it's not realistic to unfriend someone even if seeing their
social media posts affects you negatively."
Those people you just don't connect with anymore
For
the people you simply aren't close with anymore — an old co-worker, a
former college professor or a neighbor from your childhood — don't feel
guilty about removing them from social media.
"Clearing
out connections can make more room in your newsfeed for people you're
close with," Vogel said, "which is a more rewarding way to use social
media."
Social media is ingrained
in today's culture, from likes and retweets to followers and friends.
But Vogel says "Unfriend Day" is a good chance to recognize how social
media affects us.
"Having
a lot of followers or friends on social media can make us feel and look
like we're well-connected and well-liked," she says.
Vogel's
reminder to all social media users: don't be too bummed over losing
some Facebook friends or Instagram followers this "Unfriend Day." It
might feel like a rejection, she says, but "it's perfectly normal for
connections with others to change over time."
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